I Proposed To My Girlfriend, After Saying I Never Would!

I thought I wanted her to propose to me, but I changed my mind.

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After four years together, my girlfriend and I knew the next step would be marriage.

It has been a conversation topic for us, more so in the past year, and we both knew that we would get married. But first, one of us needed to propose.

I always said to her I would like her to propose, I’m a natural romantic and like most girls I grew up watching romantic comedies and seeing the most beautiful proposals, hoping one day for that to happen to me. It’s not that my girlfriend didn’t want any of that, she was just… less bothered.

So, as I said, we both knew we would get married, and both knew that she would propose… one day. She did tell me that she would propose in 2019, later in the year, but I wanted a surprise. The more I thought about it, the more I wanted to be the one delivering the surprise.

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But why did I change my mind?

I knew I wanted to marry her, so what was I waiting for? I was thinking about it, a lot. I had many a conversation with my head of why I thought I wanted to be proposed to, and weighed up how important it really was to me.

Turns out, it wasn’t that important. What was more important to me was making the decision to make an official commitment to our relationship, to become a wife and have a wife, to spend the rest of my life with this woman and to ultimately show her how much she truly means to me.

So, around a month ago I knew what I had to do. Now all I had to do was put aside some money for rings (I wanted us both to have rings when I proposed), and make a plan! My plan changed… a lot. I knew I didn’t want to have a lavish, over the top proposal. I also knew I couldn’t afford the world.

What I did know is I wanted it to somewhere special, for both of us, but mainly somewhere that I knew my partner loved. I decided on Wales. My partner is from Kent, the south east of England, but has always loved Wales. We now live in the north west of England, and only around an hour’s drive to North west Wales, one of her favourite spots in the country. I decided to take her there for the day, which turned out to be two days as I couldn’t wait any longer and wanted to have a special little break together!

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Friday came around and after a week of hiding the rings, hiding my phone due to excited messages from both of our best friends, and extreme nerves, it was time to pop the question!

We headed to Llandudno after work, so got stuck in rush hour traffic, and the journey ended up taking us close to two hours. I didn’t care though, I was just excited to get there and get the job done!

When we arrived, we checked into our hotel and quickly headed out for a walk along the pier. My partner wanted to go into the arcades (which we both love!), But I needed to keep walking to find the perfect spot. In the end, I chose a bench around half way down the pier.

We sat down, and I presented her with a cheesy card and wrapped present, which she presumed was just a cute picture of us both and a soppy message (something I do have a tendancy to write!).

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It’s safe to say that she was very surprised. Of course she said yes, and after a few minutes of pure shock for her, we got to contacting our loved ones, who of course where all over the moon, some proclaiming “finally!”.

Later in the evening she also questioned why I had changed my mind, as she was actually planning to propose to me in August, and while she was over the moon that I had popped the question, didn’t want it to be because I didn’t want to wait any longer for her to do it! That was in no way the case, as I always knew she would eventually propose. I just wanted to surprise her, knowing she would not expect it, I wanted to show that I cared more about marrying her than anything else and felt that the time was perfect.

This may be a boring article for some, but I had to share our happy news on one of my favourite platforms. Thank you for reading, and I wish everyone all the love and happiness in their relationships!

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Now we are going to enjoy a busy summer as a newly engaged couple, then get to saving and planning for our wedding later in the year, and I can not wait!

A part time writer, studying for my BA (Hons) Degree Creative Writing. My interests include mental health, politics, LGBT rights, fiction, poetry and many more!

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